I have been doing a lot of reading lately. Part of this was to research other parts of success. Think back to a time when you were truly surprised. Imagine how it felt when that surprise came to you whether good or bad. I think that we realize when we have become successful we are surprised in how it came about.
First I will start with the bad surprises. I have mentioned this in previous writing so I won’t drone on about it. My divorce came out of left field to me. When my ex-wife told me to leave the house and she took my dog too, yes just like a country song, I was devastated and surprised. After a while of finding myself and killing myself thinking about what went wrong I realized that it should not have surprised me. We had a real lack of communication. I was determined to fix that in myself. Now I have become a successful communicator.
As I was growing I was not allowed to do certain sports due to my heart surgery when I was three weeks old. It should not have surprised me but as a child it always shocked me when my parents said, “no you are not allowed to do certain activities like football and even martial arts because it could impact your chest which could cause harm.” It saddened me that I could not do the sports that my friends were constantly doing. I was concentrating on the wrong thoughts. I was thinking, “I can’t do this and I can’t do that.”
Instead I now say that I can do this or I can do that. I became a martial artist for life when my mother found an instructor who would pay attention to my medical issues. Although I am not currently practicing due to being busy taking care of my kids I constantly read and watch martial art styles. I constantly read and educate my mind. This is something I can do. I am very philosophical now because of this. How can I dislike this? I feel I have become quite successful both physically and mentally which is what those sports were about anyway.
I want to give one last surprise that lies on the good surprise side of the line. You know my story about my wife. She is my best friend as well as the love of my life. She gave me a family that I care for dearly. I had no idea that I would be a capable father. In fact, I feel like I am truly successful at parenthood. She helps me and I help her. We help each other as we learn how to teach our children. Any parent out there will tell you that it is a constant learning journey being a parent. This was the best surprise of my life and the most successful part of my life.
Remember that success will come. It comes in many different ways. I have posted a picture here how success really comes as to what some people may think of success. Success comes in a lot of turns and curves and is almost never straight forward. Remember this during the good and the bad surprises of your life. Learn the lessons and you will be successful.