A Goal Worth What I Want

Just beginning in the organization and opening this new blog I feel I need to have a massive goal.  Taking action has always been something that I preach.  To take action in this network I need something so big that I haven’t done anything close to this before.  It will not only be writing.  With as much as I love writing I think this is going to take more.

Challenging youself is always so important.  No matter your situations there is always a higher goal or a way to better yourself.  If you are not challenging yourself what is the point of living.  Amazing things can happen when you feel yourself becoming more of who you are.

Aiming high will allow you to challenge yourself.  Who cares if you do not make the goal.  If you never aim for it you will never reach it.  Say you make a goal to do something in 6 months.  Even if you do not hit that goal in 6 months and it takes you a year, guess what you just made your goal.  Even better is when you make that 6 month goal and it takes you 3 months.  That is always the better surprise.

For my massive goal I want to make a video every day for 365 days.  I have no idea what I am going to talk about, most likely what I write about, success, but I want to produce massive results.  If you want to join me feel free.  If you want to follow me feel free.  If you want to connect with me feel free.


Matthew Collinson

Empower Yourself

Every Day


Every day we need to work at what we want.  This applies to everything.  It doesn’t matter if you work for someone else, work for yourself or work for your family.  Now is the only certain time that each of us have.

Take into consideration how long we live.  Let’s just call it maybe 100 years.  In an article I read a year or two ago it stated that as we are living longer we are also taking longer to grow.  The first 30 years we are essentially children.  I do not want to offend anyone.  This is not a smack to those young people who are hungry for life.  Then eventually you get to an age where you just want or maybe can’t function at a high rate anymore.

We know that right now even while reading this you are learning or hoping to learn something new.  You are being high functioning by trying to move forward with your life.  Because you are here reading this you have some form of a goal or you may be here just reading to support me as a friend or family member.

Right now if there is something that you want you need to be working at it every solitary day.  If that means you have to be out talking to people, go talk to someone.  If you need to be studying a subject to get where you want to be, study something about that subject every day.  It is up to us to take the action to work at what we love, what our goals are, what we want in success to work at it every solitary day.  If you love what you are doing it isn’t even considered working, it is a game, it is play time.

I love writing.  I try to write at least something every day.  It doesn’t matter if it is fiction, a piece on success, an article for ezine or just writing my thoughts out.  Every day something comes out of my head that’s I have to get out.  Do the same with what you want in life.  Hope your guys have a fantastic night.

Matthew Collinson

Empower Yourself

Write Out the Reasons

Write out the reasons you want to be successful was an exercise in a book I was just reading told me to do.  This is what I wrote.

One reason I want to become successful is for my family.  I want to be able to give them the needs and wants through life.

Another reason is that I want to be able to help others.  This means being able to spend time doing what I can within our world community.  Honestly, I am tired of our world being separated into segments regardless of what those are.  I want to bring the world together so that we can talk with one another.  Through this speaking we will learn so much from each other.  My dream world would allow our species to move forward instead of taking a step forward and two steps back because someone disagrees, loses their temper and starts war.

War is the most tragic emotion that humans have developed.  Look at the way nature works with each other.  Everything builds together.  If we as humans could come together to work with one another regardless of segmentation we would achieve a whole new world.  This is one of many reasons I want to succeed.

This was a great exercise for me.  Although it was simple I couldn’t believe the thoughts that flew out.  I truly enjoyed this exercise and I highly recommend it to find a strong enough reason to succeed.  Original copy of my writing.  By the way I type because of that handwriting lol.

Write Success

Write the reasons you want to become successful

Tapping Your Passions

Today feels like a day where people should learn how to tap into their passions.  How do you find the things that you are passionate about to become successful in life?  Each person will have a different meaning of what success is.  It is up to you to uniquely describe what success looks like to you.  By finding your values, hobbies, interests and passions you will at least have a direction to start in.  The following questions will help you to define your passion.

Purple Passion

What do you want to leave to those that surround you?

One way to define this is to figure out what your legacy should be in your eyes.   One legacy that I would like to be seen passed down through the generations below me is that my family follows their hearts.  I want them to be passionate about everything they do.  If you are not passionate about something what is the point of doing it.  We get to live one time as far as we know or according to your beliefs maybe more than once.  Do it right regardless of your beliefs.

How do you want to be remembered?

Each person will want to be remembered in different ways.  When I die I hope that people see me as a person who followed his heart.  Even in the hard times I follow what I feel deep inside.  It is not always the easy path but I believe it teaches me valuable lessons.  I hope also that people remember some of the lessons I taught them when I was alive.

How do you want to affect the community?

Affecting the community can come in many different paths.  Simplicity could be getting a light at a dangerous intersection planned.  A person could volunteer or start a volunteering organization within the community.  I want to show people in my community that anyone can succeed in gathering their dreams.  It will just take persistence and continual studying on my part to see how humans behave when they are succeeding at whatever it is they are working at.

What interests you?

This is very broad but you want to narrow it down as much as possible.  Some people love to be on the computer and play games.  Some people will say one of their interests is to go hunting.  Another may be to protect animals which also touch on the community question as well.  It doesn’t really matter what you choose.  Once you get this list set you will know what to work towards in your life to live successfully and fully.

Top Ten Roughest Interview Questions…made fun of

Why Should I Hire You?

I will tell you why you should hire me.  First have you ever had a day where you have felt awesome?  I am like that every day.  You won’t need to know when I will be there because I will always be there when told.  It is my dream to live every day.  There is not a day that I won’t want to be there.  Why should you hire me?  Why should I hire you to employ me?

Why is there a gap in your work history?

What gap?  I was out there pounding the pavement.  It was an everyday situation where I would do almost anything to try to keep my family on their feet.   I didn’t know where my next dime was coming from.  I applied for jobs but most of all I was getting my business going so I didn’t have to work for you.  This is hell of a lot harder any job could have offered to teach me lessons of life.  There is a time when you stand up and shout, “I will do this!”

Tell me one thing that you would have changed about your last job?

My last job?  You are correct it was my last job.  I am tired of people judging me and mine.  We know where hearts lie.  In fact you are lying to yourself if you say you are happy behind that desk having to follow people’s orders all day.  Screw that.  Run your own show.  You are intelligent enough to talk to people all day about a job that repeats the same task over and over again.  Guess what that is how you get to success in any part of life.  Find something that works and work it like you have never worked anything in your life.  It will take a lot less time.

Tell me about yourself?

I am a strong individual who grew up in a great family.  Each family member has their strengths.  I learned how to feel people out.  Figuring out the way they act is how I can tell you about myself.  Take an angry ass customer I can stand there and figure out why they are mad.  After the rant speak calmly because it isn’t personal and yet oh so personal.  About me you ask?  I am an honorable man, a great father, a wonderful husband who loves his wife oh so much.  That is about all you need to hear about me what about you?

Explain a complex data base to your eight year old?

Do you remember how Barney used to remember all of those years in his past?  His head remembered that.  Computers do the same thing.  They remember all kinds of information like the past.  How old are you?  You say you are 8?  That is great.  The computer would remember that you are 8.  It also remembers more than that.

What would the person who likes you least in the world say about you?

Most likely that I am an Ass.  Why would I say that in a job interview?  It is because it is the truth.  Hell, if the person who likes me least doesn’t come up and punch me or worse then I will count myself lucky.  This world is out of control sometimes.  It is up to us to control the moments that we can.  If you can tell me that the person that likes you least in the world wouldn’t say similar I think I will not want to work for a liar.

Tell me about a time old solutions didn’t work?

You’re right sometimes scotch tape just doesn’t work.  Time to take out the Duct Tape.

What’s the biggest risk you have ever taken?

Well this is a loaded question.  I would say that my history has some dark moments.  These moments were cause because I was choosing not to get my head straight.  I flew on my emotions.  To be honest I am lucky to be not in the ground or in jail.  We all had different ways of dealing with what we thought was such a hard part of life.  There is nothing that was more risky than those times.  I love my family.  I feel very fortunate to be exactly who I am.

Have you ever had a supervisor challenge a decision?

Constantly, I always have ideas and put myself out there.  I am not afraid to keep my mouth shut which is a problem as a normal employee.  I find it ridiculous that we have grown such a stigma about etiquette.  If people would just be straight with one another there would be half the problems in the world solved.  Deception sucks and I am not afraid to say it.

Explain a time when your team didn’t agree?

People will agree and disagree.  The reason we have disagreements is because we have different perceptions.  Each perception is grasped by our minds memory and history.  It will react differently for each individual.  It is amazing that we can even come along to connect with one another.  There is always a connection whether positive or negative.  Sometimes a person just has to say, “Look, you and I will never be friends, we will never like each other.  Let us come together for this one project and the future will take place.  Take it a moment at a time.  Then from here if we disagree we will talk about the disagreement like adults.  Then if there are 3 or more people in the group take a vote.  Whichever of us loses it is fine, just get the project done.


what success looks like

I have been doing a lot of reading lately.  Part of this was to research other parts of success.  Think back to a time when you were truly surprised.  Imagine how it felt when that surprise came to you whether good or bad.  I think that we realize when we have become successful we are surprised in how it came about.

First I will start with the bad surprises.  I have mentioned this in previous writing so I won’t drone on about it.  My divorce came out of left field to me.  When my ex-wife told me to leave the house and she took my dog too, yes just like a country song, I was devastated and surprised.  After a while of finding myself and killing myself thinking about what went wrong I realized that it should not have surprised me.  We had a real lack of communication.  I was determined to fix that in myself.  Now I have become a successful communicator.

As I was growing I was not allowed to do certain sports due to my heart surgery when I was three weeks old.  It should not have surprised me but as a child it always shocked me when my parents said, “no you are not allowed to do certain activities like football and even martial arts because it could impact your chest which could cause harm.”  It saddened me that I could not do the sports that my friends were constantly doing.  I was concentrating on the wrong thoughts.  I was thinking, “I can’t do this and I can’t do that.”

Instead I now say that I can do this or I can do that.  I became a martial artist for life when my mother found an instructor who would pay attention to my medical issues.  Although I am not currently practicing due to being busy taking care of my kids I constantly read and watch martial art styles.  I constantly read and educate my mind.  This is something I can do.  I am very philosophical now because of this.  How can I dislike this?  I feel I have become quite successful both physically and mentally which is what those sports were about anyway.

I want to give one last surprise that lies on the good surprise side of the line.  You know my story about my wife.  She is my best friend as well as the love of my life.  She gave me a family that I care for dearly.  I had no idea that I would be a capable father.  In fact, I feel like I am truly successful at parenthood.  She helps me and I help her.  We help each other as we learn how to teach our children.  Any parent out there will tell you that it is a constant learning journey being a parent.  This was the best surprise of my life and the most successful part of my life.

Remember that success will come.  It comes in many different ways.  I have posted a picture here how success really comes as to what some people may think of success.  Success comes in a lot of turns and curves and is almost never straight forward.  Remember this during the good and the bad surprises of your life.  Learn the lessons and you will be successful.

Redundant Memory

redundant memory

I just read an interesting article that discusses how the human brain uses a redundancy method to remember things.  Regardless of what the memory is it slowly gets lost with time due to neurons constantly dying.  The article can be found at:  http://www.quora.com/Neuroscience-1/Is-there-any-redundancy-in-human-memory.  If this is the case I believe that the following should be true.

Success can use this to its advantage.  Through many steps a person can become successful.  Have an idea, plan your idea, discuss your idea with a mentor or read up and study, take action immediately and follow through with each step of the plan.  Because we use this method consistently I would put forth that we are telling many neurons to remember how to be successful.  That is why people who have become successful can lose everything and become successful again.

Keep practicing every time you get the chance.  Follow a method and do it again and again.  I use this with DS Domination.  This program helps walk a person step by step to make decent money.  I find information that works.  I study the videos.  After studying I take action from those that have come before.  Not only do I make money on the front end without having to do anything but following instruction so that I can work from home to be home with my daughter but there is also a way to make money on the back end as well.  Anyway, the point is that a method is repeated so that even if I lost everything I could do it again.

On the opposite end if something doesn’t work then you want to forget about it.  I do not mean do not learn the lessons from the mistake.  Learn your lessons and repeat what you have learned.  This will imbed it into your brain.  For instance, my last marriage didn’t work due to communication.  Now that I learned the communication lesson I currently make sure that every day I communicate with my wife, kids and friends.  There is no mistake that I am trying to communicate something.

Success is repetitive process.  Learn what works and repeat.  Dig it into your brain so deep that it becomes second nature.  I use this for martial arts.  Now I do not have to think about what I have to do, I just do it.

The Story about My Partner

Valentine 2014

I have the best story in the world.  It started in tragedy.  My heart had been broken.  I felt down on my luck and I was angry.  I made a lot of new friends because my old ones and I fell out of contact due to my ex never wanting me to go out, or so I felt but there was such a lack of communication even if she didn’t care, I felt she did at the time.  This was alright.

I met someone who became my best friend.  Her name was Sarah.  Even while we were both dating other people we would tell each other stories.   We would go see movies or just hang out after work.  She became such a good friend that I already loved her in one aspect.  After a while of us both dating people with little luck of finding that right relationship it turned into almost a movie.

One day when we were talking on the phone I said, “F*** this, I am tired of being run over and you don’t seem to be having much more luck.  I say we drop our current people we are dating and we should be together.”  She was completely up for it.  So we did exactly that.  Each of the other people we were dating were not pleased but we decided that we would be together.  It turned into complete magic.

She is the most wonderful person.  Although we do not agree on everything in our lives we agree that we would do it together.  No matter what the circumstance I know she is always there.  She will have my back even when I make mistakes.  There is no one I could have asked for that could be more perfect for me.  In fact, the first time that I knew I had fallen in love with her was when she was cuddling with me one day and I fell asleep in her arms and I could not remember ever doing that with another woman.  I felt protected as much as I would protect her.  I have no explanation for this but it was like lightning had struck.

Sometimes we just have to look right in front of us to find what we are looking for.  I have never had such a complete life.  She makes everything better.  Her smile brings a smile to my face.  Her sadness is my sadness.   Her pain is my pain.  Her happiness is my happiness.  We together make a whole that chooses to do everything together because it makes the world seem a brighter place.  I enjoy her company.  She calms my soul more than I would normally be without her.  I have the same effect on her.

Life with my partner is wonderful.  I wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day my love.

Step by Step


Success can come to anyone.  With patience and fortitude a person can succeed at almost anything.  Let us think of some amazing accomplishments that humans have achieved.  Monks can sleep on top of mountains in snow and stop spears from going through their skin.  A man lifted a helicopter off a person and a mother lifted a car off a child because adrenaline allowed them to do something without thinking of what they cannot do.

Acting by instinct and allowing our bodies to do what our minds might possibly tell us we cannot.  Our minds can do similar.  We have to let them flow and sometimes we should not question.  Allow our minds to take us where we want.  This can happen anytime we choose.  Sometimes letting go will allow us to do what must be done.

The first step to success is making a decision.  Part of making a decision is to figure out why you want to do something.  If you can find a big enough “why” you can achieve anything.  Do you want to take care of your family?  Do you want to go on vacation anytime you want to?  Do you want to have a deeper relationship with your spouse?  This list could go on and on.  Make a decision on what you want out of life but more important get yourself a real reason as to why you want what that is.

The second step is allowing your mind to plan on how you will do this.  Making a plan is a key to success.  I prefer to hand write my serious plans because I get the feeling that is what my brain wants.  Another part of this step is allowing time to let your brain pick your memory from what you have learned in the past.  If there is something you are not sure about in your plan the brain will let you know.  When this happens you have a simple solution, learn what you do not know.  I suggest learning from other people that have gone before you.  The great news about this is that there are so many resources out there for us to use it should not be a problem to learn almost anything you want.  Find a book, use the internet or best of all sit down with a person.

Third step I would say is to take action on your plan.   Even if you do not know everything you cannot wait for the perfect time to start.  If I had done that I would not have had the most wonderful baby daughter in the world.  If I had done that I would not have gathered a beautiful wife and her children which have become my children as well.  We all have so much love for one another.  I take action every day to try to make my family happy in one form or another.  This allows me to accomplish the goal of having a great family relationship.

One last step intermixes with all of the other steps and will allow you to accomplish your success.  That is laser targeted focus.  A laser beam takes up a small area and is very direct.  This is how we have to think of our goals.  Concentrate until action has bloomed and there is no way that what you want to accomplish will fail.  We as humans normally have short attention spans.  I know some days I am definitely guilty of this.  If you have a strong enough will to want something in your life make it so.  Tell yourself you need to concentrate.  Do not allow many distractions in your pursuit.  Make each and every day count.


Be Emotional


Success can depend upon emotion.  Emotion can drive us to do the most wonderful things for the people we love.  It can also drive us mad if we do not control them.  Know where your emotion lies on any given subject.  Think about how something makes you feel.  Then figure out why it makes you feel this way.

Once you figure out the how and the why you can step aside to figure out what your next step is.  Some people do not respect boundaries.  It is important to know how something with emotionally affect those around you too.  Sometimes it should not matter what other people feel.  This can be done by asking how well you know your audience.  Your family will react different than your friends.  Your friends will react differently than strangers that you are speaking in front of.  Enemies will react differently than all of these.

One rule of thumb I use is that I try to tell the truth at all times.  Sometimes my truth will be different than someone else’s truth.  This is because we have two different perspectives.  That is okay.  Once you state your side, give good reasons.  If you do not know something, say so and state you will have to do more research on the subject matter.  It is okay not to know something.  There is no reason to be emotional about that.

Now use your emotions to succeed.  Be passionate and love what you are doing.  I love being a father.  I love being a husband.  Granted my wife makes it super easy to love her too.  We give each other the freedom we both need to be individuals but we have joined our paths together so that we can be emotional together.  We will succeed in anything we choose to do.