Write Out the Reasons

Write out the reasons you want to be successful was an exercise in a book I was just reading told me to do.  This is what I wrote.

One reason I want to become successful is for my family.  I want to be able to give them the needs and wants through life.

Another reason is that I want to be able to help others.  This means being able to spend time doing what I can within our world community.  Honestly, I am tired of our world being separated into segments regardless of what those are.  I want to bring the world together so that we can talk with one another.  Through this speaking we will learn so much from each other.  My dream world would allow our species to move forward instead of taking a step forward and two steps back because someone disagrees, loses their temper and starts war.

War is the most tragic emotion that humans have developed.  Look at the way nature works with each other.  Everything builds together.  If we as humans could come together to work with one another regardless of segmentation we would achieve a whole new world.  This is one of many reasons I want to succeed.

This was a great exercise for me.  Although it was simple I couldn’t believe the thoughts that flew out.  I truly enjoyed this exercise and I highly recommend it to find a strong enough reason to succeed.  Original copy of my writing.  By the way I type because of that handwriting lol.

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Write the reasons you want to become successful

Tapping Your Passions

Today feels like a day where people should learn how to tap into their passions.  How do you find the things that you are passionate about to become successful in life?  Each person will have a different meaning of what success is.  It is up to you to uniquely describe what success looks like to you.  By finding your values, hobbies, interests and passions you will at least have a direction to start in.  The following questions will help you to define your passion.

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What do you want to leave to those that surround you?

One way to define this is to figure out what your legacy should be in your eyes.   One legacy that I would like to be seen passed down through the generations below me is that my family follows their hearts.  I want them to be passionate about everything they do.  If you are not passionate about something what is the point of doing it.  We get to live one time as far as we know or according to your beliefs maybe more than once.  Do it right regardless of your beliefs.

How do you want to be remembered?

Each person will want to be remembered in different ways.  When I die I hope that people see me as a person who followed his heart.  Even in the hard times I follow what I feel deep inside.  It is not always the easy path but I believe it teaches me valuable lessons.  I hope also that people remember some of the lessons I taught them when I was alive.

How do you want to affect the community?

Affecting the community can come in many different paths.  Simplicity could be getting a light at a dangerous intersection planned.  A person could volunteer or start a volunteering organization within the community.  I want to show people in my community that anyone can succeed in gathering their dreams.  It will just take persistence and continual studying on my part to see how humans behave when they are succeeding at whatever it is they are working at.

What interests you?

This is very broad but you want to narrow it down as much as possible.  Some people love to be on the computer and play games.  Some people will say one of their interests is to go hunting.  Another may be to protect animals which also touch on the community question as well.  It doesn’t really matter what you choose.  Once you get this list set you will know what to work towards in your life to live successfully and fully.

Step by Step


Success can come to anyone.  With patience and fortitude a person can succeed at almost anything.  Let us think of some amazing accomplishments that humans have achieved.  Monks can sleep on top of mountains in snow and stop spears from going through their skin.  A man lifted a helicopter off a person and a mother lifted a car off a child because adrenaline allowed them to do something without thinking of what they cannot do.

Acting by instinct and allowing our bodies to do what our minds might possibly tell us we cannot.  Our minds can do similar.  We have to let them flow and sometimes we should not question.  Allow our minds to take us where we want.  This can happen anytime we choose.  Sometimes letting go will allow us to do what must be done.

The first step to success is making a decision.  Part of making a decision is to figure out why you want to do something.  If you can find a big enough “why” you can achieve anything.  Do you want to take care of your family?  Do you want to go on vacation anytime you want to?  Do you want to have a deeper relationship with your spouse?  This list could go on and on.  Make a decision on what you want out of life but more important get yourself a real reason as to why you want what that is.

The second step is allowing your mind to plan on how you will do this.  Making a plan is a key to success.  I prefer to hand write my serious plans because I get the feeling that is what my brain wants.  Another part of this step is allowing time to let your brain pick your memory from what you have learned in the past.  If there is something you are not sure about in your plan the brain will let you know.  When this happens you have a simple solution, learn what you do not know.  I suggest learning from other people that have gone before you.  The great news about this is that there are so many resources out there for us to use it should not be a problem to learn almost anything you want.  Find a book, use the internet or best of all sit down with a person.

Third step I would say is to take action on your plan.   Even if you do not know everything you cannot wait for the perfect time to start.  If I had done that I would not have had the most wonderful baby daughter in the world.  If I had done that I would not have gathered a beautiful wife and her children which have become my children as well.  We all have so much love for one another.  I take action every day to try to make my family happy in one form or another.  This allows me to accomplish the goal of having a great family relationship.

One last step intermixes with all of the other steps and will allow you to accomplish your success.  That is laser targeted focus.  A laser beam takes up a small area and is very direct.  This is how we have to think of our goals.  Concentrate until action has bloomed and there is no way that what you want to accomplish will fail.  We as humans normally have short attention spans.  I know some days I am definitely guilty of this.  If you have a strong enough will to want something in your life make it so.  Tell yourself you need to concentrate.  Do not allow many distractions in your pursuit.  Make each and every day count.


Incremental Success

numbered-stairs-holly-mathis-interiors-via-a-case-of-the-mundays_blogspot“Human beings respond well to reward,” (HuffPost, 2013, pp.3).  This is one technique people use to get to their success.  Every time a person accomplishes a daily goal or a small goal it should be celebrated.  The very least a person should do is take a moment and realize that they did well.  Doing well helps to increase our mood and thought processes.

I could bore you with research but let us take a look at some examples on how small achievements that are celebrated can help us keep on going to get to our final goal.  Today is the second day of my wife’s vacation.  This morning I made sure that the car was packed and ready to go by the time she got finished showering.  I know that sometimes this stresses her out.  I wanted to make sure she was happy to start her day.  One of my ultimate goals is to make a happy household no matter what situations we get ourselves into as a family.  By doing this small task I know it really struck home with my wife even if she doesn’t say anything about it.  I know that she appreciates me and I appreciate her just as much every day.

In my last post I discussed how success can take many turns.  Even in a day success can take many turns.  I choose to accept the fact that we cannot necessarily predict what can happen in the future.  Do not plan that your day will always go without a hitch.  These hitches will make us better people.  An example of this would be like if my wife and I wanted to go do something but my mother in law asks a favor.  This favor is going to take an extra hour or two of my time.  Instead of losing it or getting upset I will step up and do whatever the task is.  By doing this task I can keep a peaceful watch on my family and extended family.  By doing this task I might learn how to do something new or something different even if it is basic household type work or care.  This is a good thing to learn even if at first it doesn’t seem.

Celebrating small victories of helping a family member or paying for a coffee or meal can help smooth out the day.  You might hold an elevator door for someone with a great smile.  You may get joy out of this, so will the person that you held the door for whether they want to admit it or acknowledge it or not.  Something small will click inside you and put you in a better mood.  This has many theories but whether it is a chemical or a spiritual reaction your life is increased by doing something even this simple.

What may the reaction be of doing something small and nice?  Well it could just be this small increase in life that drives you.  You may well meet a person that could change your life forever.  This one time I put myself out there on a network website.  I met this gentleman who struck up first a business partnership but has developed more into a friend these days.  If he called me up and told me he wanted to talk I would be there and I think even vice versa would occur.  None the less I learned how to be a better business man because of him.  I had already accrued my bachelor degree in business management but I think I learned more from this guy in the little time I knew him than I ever did before.

Taking these small victories by both hands can help push you to the next level.  Each step that helps you to grow closer to the goal that you wish to achieve is a step less than you needed to do before.  Doing these steps with a smile will help to increase your motivation to move forward and do more steps toward the success you wish to achieve.  Think about this a moment.  There if you are happy to do something are you more apt to do it?  I believe this should give people a resounding yes.

Being excited to achieve certain success whether financially, socially or any other form of success should make anyone happy.  If you are not happy with the current situation only you can choose to get out of the situation.  This cannot be on anyone else but you.  This is why I urge you to celebrate all of your victories even it is only by smiling and saying that, “Yes I did that.”  Acknowledgement is a important as any success step I have ever written about.

Huffington Post (2013, May 16). 11 Little Victories To Celebrate, Just Because (PHOTOS). Retrieved May 26, 2013, from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/17/little-victories-reasons-to-celebrate_n_3157547.html

Lesson 7 – Relax

This is an important component for success.  To relax means to breathe first.  When you have done this move to whatever is tensing your life up right now.  Relaxing will help you to think more clearly.  Maybe you say you do not have time to relax.  This is unfortunate.  It is very important to add this into your daily diet.

I am not saying sit down like a floppy noodle in front of the television.  More likely I would say to sit down with a straight back and work on breathing.  There is something about clearing your head for future challenges that occur within one’s life.

What else does relaxing benefit?  There are various benefits that have been proven through research.  Relaxing health benefits include helping the heart.  By relaxing in the right way you can lower blood pressure, heart attacks and other such issues.  This may seem simple but if a person is too stressed they even tend to catch more colds.  Also a reduction in stress can help people overcome and prevent having a stroke.  Other studies have shown more than just physical contributions.   On the other end of relaxing benefits a person by helping them to think more clearly which has been documented.   While stress can impair a person’s memory and learning, being relaxed can help a person remember more.

These are just a few of many benefits of learning to relax.  Each of these can help you to be successful in many manners.  If you have a longer life you can achieve more.  If you can think more clearly you can focus better on what you want to do.  Part of relaxing also means doing things that do not just need to be done but also you want to do them.  For instance, to relax sometime my family and I will go to the zoo to look at the animals and gather exercise at the same time walking around a lot.

Overall, with all of these benefits who does not want to relax more in life.  A clear head is nice.  The biological benefits are outstanding.  Health benefits outweigh more that the rest.  Be successful but learn to do it by habit so that you do not even have to think about being successful anymore.  What does this mean?

In martial arts we discuss sending out a feeling or a thought before taking action.  This allows us to accomplish sometimes extraordinary tasks without putting forth the physical effort that a lot of people spend time doing.  This goes hand in hand with the law of attraction as well.  There are many ways to accomplish success in life depending upon what you are looking for.  First send forth the thought that you want to and will succeed.  Now your mind and body will follow.  Our brains have huge capacity if we so allow them too.  Somewhere within each of us are all of our memories and all of the thoughts we have processed throughout life.  If we can take the next step from within our being we could tap into the information we already know.  Use that information and our mind and body will find a way to follow.

Exercise on this lesson is simple and yet difficult.  I would like to you sit comfortably but alert.  In Aikido we sit in Seiza but this takes some getting used to.  Sit criss cross apple sauce or as some people used to call it in my generation Indian style even though I do not want to offend people and that is never my intent.  Close  your eyes and just listen to your breathing for about 10 minutes.  This does not seem difficult at first but you may learn differently.  There should not be noise, just silence although some forms of meditation also say you can listen to soft music or nature sounds.  Whatever makes you happy you should do.  Now listen to your breathing only.  Breath in through your nose and out through your mouth.  Once you have accomplished 10 minutes of this move forward with learning more meditation exercises.  If you wish to know more you can always contact me through the comments would be best but also through email if you wish to keep it more private.

Thanks again and best regards to a relaxing successful life.